Acceptance of Reality does not equal Approval of Reality
There's a balance (a dialectic) between the need for change and the (radical) acceptance of self or a situation.
A quick story for you
You have purchased a beautiful brick house with a white picket fence around a garden of roses. You sign the paperwork and pack your bags to move into your new house. The day you drive your moving truck into the driveway, you see that the previous owner just painted over the bricks and white picket fence...and it's purple! In fact, it's Barney the dinosaur purple, but fortunately without the green spots.
This wasn't in the agreement. This is not what you had expected. Where does this leave you? Definitely frustrated...probably irate. To get the change you want, you must first acknowledge the fact that the house is purple and not the beautiful brick that you had expected. You see the need for change (the house must be painted) and the need for acceptance that the house is purple and can be changed.
Without accepting that the house is purple, you are stuck in your view of what the house should be, not what it is. By accepting the situation exactly how it is, you are able to see the change you want and know that is possible to get your needs and wants met. This takes work and time, but in the end you may be empowered to know that you have created a positive change with lasting benefits.
So think about this and ask yourself: What is your purple house? What are you going to do about it?
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